Leaving an Inheritance to a Friend: What Portland, Oregon Will Lawyers Want You to Know

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Most of us instinctively picture spouses, children, or other close relatives when we think about who will inherit our things. Yet many clients come to our office wanting a friend, sometimes their closest companion, to receive part or even all of their estate. That wish is perfectly valid, but it must be documented the right way. If you rely on verbal promises or vague notes, probate law will default to blood relatives, and your friend could end up with nothing.

Below is a plain‑language guide to make sure your chosen friend is taken care of.

1. Know the Default Rules

If you die without a will (this is called “intestacy”), state law hands everything to your next‑of‑kin in a set order: spouse, children, parents, siblings, and so on. Friends, unmarried partners, and favorite charities do not even appear on that list. A court cannot “guess” your wishes, no matter how obvious you think they are.

Bottom line: unless your intention is spelled out in a legally valid document, your friend’s claim will fail.

2. Put It in Writing with the Right Tool

You have three main ways to name a friend as a beneficiary:

  • Last Will and Testament. The will can leave your friend a specific dollar amount, a particular item, or a percentage of everything you own. A will goes through probate, but it is familiar and cost‑effective.

  • Revocable Living Trust. You place your assets, such as your house and investment accounts, into a trust that you control during life. After you pass, the successor trustee distributes them privately, without probate delays.

  • Beneficiary Designations. Many assets, including life‑insurance policies, retirement accounts, and certain bank accounts, let you name a “pay‑on‑death” or “transfer‑on‑death” beneficiary. This form overrides the will and moves the money directly to your friend.

Choose the method that fits best, then sign the paperwork with the number of witnesses and notary stamp your state requires. A quick conversation with your Portland, Oregon will lawyer keeps you from missing a technical step that could invalidate everything.

3. Head Off Possible Family Pushback

Leaving money to someone outside the family can raise eyebrows. You can lower the risk of a court fight by taking a few preventive measures:

  • Talk with your relatives ahead of time if relationships allow. Surprises often trigger resentment.

  • Include a “no‑contest” clause in your will or trust. Anyone who challenges the plan risks losing their share.

  • Write a short letter of intent explaining why this friend is important. Judges see this as evidence of sound mind and clear purpose.

  • Document mental capacity with a brief doctor’s note if you expect someone to claim you were under undue influence.

4. Watch the Tax Angle

Gifts to friends do not qualify for the unlimited marital deduction that protects spousal transfers. The good news is that federal estate‑tax exemptions are currently very high. The concern is that some states impose inheritance taxes on transfers to non‑relatives at much lower thresholds. Your lawyer or CPA can show you whether a lifetime gift, charitable trust, or other strategy would lower that bill.

5. Pick the Right Executor or Trustee

Your executor (for a will) or trustee (for a trust) should be organized and willing to carry out your wishes, even if a relative complains. In many states your named friend can serve in that role, but it is wise to appoint a back‑up in case the first choice is unable or unwilling when the time comes.

6. Keep Your Plan Current

Life evolves, and so should your estate documents. Review your will, trust, and beneficiary forms every three to five years, or sooner after any big life change such as a move, marriage, divorce, or a falling‑out. Updating a form now is far easier than untangling a dispute later.

Ready to Secure Your Friend’s Future?

Our Portland, Oregon estate planning team helps people protect the friends who have become family. We will:

  • Draft or update wills, trusts, and beneficiary forms that name your friend clearly

  • Add no‑contest language and letters of intent that deter challenges

  • Review any state inheritance‑tax exposure and provide solutions

  • Coordinate lifetime gifts with your overall financial goals

Schedule a consultation today so the person who means the most to you receives the legacy you intend, without courtroom headaches or family conflict.

If you want to get started on your estate plan, read about our estate planning services and schedule an appointment.

To your family's health + happiness.

~Candice N. Aiston

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